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Guy Ask “What Did Your Spouse Hide From You Until After You Were Already Married?” And Redditors Had The Answers

By Malaika
June 14, 2024
9 minutes read

There should be no secrets in relationships.

In relationships, trust and honesty are critical for a strong and healthy bond between partners. Secrets can undermine trust, causing feelings of betrayal and resentment. Couples can lay the groundwork for a strong relationship by maintaining open communication and transparency. This can create a sense of security and intimacy, resulting in a stronger bond between partners. To maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship, both individuals must be comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings openly.

We’ve all heard that secrets eventually come out, so hiding things from your partner, with whom you’ll be spending the majority of your time, is a recipe for disaster. It’s an even worse idea if you’re married and doing it behind their back. Now, I’m not saying you should tell your partner everything that comes to mind. After all, everyone is entitled to their privacy. However, there must be agreement, and being secretive is detrimental to any relationship. You’ll notice it in the stories people shared when a Reddit user asked what their significant others kept from them until they got married.

Scroll down to see for yourself.

Source: Reddit

This is the question that started it all.

#1 We are starting with a good one, and this woman truly sounds like a great mother, even if they are no longer married.

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#2 Realising that your partner is incredibly hard-working is always a nice surprise.

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#3 I do not know how this didn’t come up in conversation before they married.

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#4 I remember when puzzles were a big thing and every home used to have a few sets.

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#5 You gotta roll with the punches, and that means learning things on the fly.

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#6 I didn’t really know what guinea pigs sounded like, but the Internet made me look it up.

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#7 It is not really a bad secret, but something you need to tell your partner before you get married.

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#8 Everyone has their kinks, but not everyone would be comfortable with something like this.

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#9 Sadly, a lot of people suffer from generational family trauma.

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#10 As someone with ADHD, I can understand that it can be difficult for other people to deal with.

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#11 Sometimes it is difficult to realise things yourself until someone else tells you.

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#12 How was he not proud of that fact? That would have certainly impressed me.

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#13 Hiding your past marriages isn’t something one should do.

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#14 I am assuming this second refrigerator had all the cool stuff in it.

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#15 This is what happens when you try to run from taxes.

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#16 People get used to the hands they are dealt in life.

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#17 This is something that should definitely come up before a commitment like marriage.

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#18 I cannot even imagine how his wife must have felt at that moment.

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#19 This is weirdly wholesome, and I know a lot of people in my life who do this as well.

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#20 This sounds like a horrible experience.

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Some of the responses are truly heartbreaking, revealing secrets ranging from hidden debts to previous infidelities. I know some people hide their financial situations because they don’t want to worry their partner, but they don’t realise that telling their partner you’re going bankrupt when they’re pregnant will only increase their worry. I will refrain from discussing the affairs or the secret children, as it is widely recognised that this is not respectful behaviour towards a partner.

#21 Nothing against someone’s gender identity, but things like this should be said beforehand.

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#22 That is taking politeness to an extreme. I wouldn’t say I hate mushrooms, but even I am not a big enough fan to eat them like this.

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#23 Hiding that you have children is definitely a horrible thing to do to your partner.

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#24 I have tried doing that before, and it is harder than it looks.

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#25 I would not be able to forgive my in-laws after this.

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#26 Finding out that your partner is cheating on you can be life-changing, but not in a good way.

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#27 How does someone hold it in for so long? Is it even possible?

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#28 This is why one should lie with their partner for a little bit before committing to marriage.

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#29 To be fair, everyone has a credit card these days, though not to this degree.

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#30 How was he able to hide such a talent?

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#31 This person was clearly hiding everything about his life.

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#32 I don’t know how to feel about this one.

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#33 Keeping a separate bank account isn’t a bad thing, but hiding it from your partner definitely is.

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#34 There are a lot of stories about cheating here.

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#35 People who don’t take care of children tend to have a lot of them.

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#36 That might be weird, but it is also weirdly adorable.

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#37 Ab*sers tend to hide their nature perfectly until one day they don’t.

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#38 This person needs therapy very soon.

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#39 Who hides their sibling from their partner?

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#40 It wasn’t as if he was hiding it intentionally since he might not have known himself either.