When diving into a relationship, one often overlooks the importance of bonding with in-laws if things get serious. Your connection with your partner’s parents can significantly impact your happiness together. Sometimes, these relationships can be wonderfully supportive, but for some, it’s a rocky road.
Imagine being in love, ready to marry, but constantly thwarted by your future mother-in-law. That’s what happened to Reddit user Zealousideal_Cat958 who had to call off her engagement because her fiancé’s mom kept postponing the wedding. She revealed how her partner’s lack of prioritizing her feelings led to four canceled weddings. People were shocked at her struggle, realizing her partner wasn’t putting her first.
The Reddit story was shared by user ask_aubry on X (Twitter) to know what this community thought about this wedding saga. The response was immense and completely in favor of OP!
Scroll down below to read the story!
Source: Zealousideal_Cat958
1. This family drama is going to be an interesting one!
2. OP and her fiance’s wedding has been called off 4 times now because of her MIL being able to convince her fiance for some baseless reason.
3. The MIL would pick a life situation, incorporate it into her reasoning, and convince her son using that reason to call the wedding off. And he would do it.
4. For the 5th time, OP planned an inexpensive potluck wedding in her mom’s backyard, which she thought should’ve been acceptable for everyone.
5. According to OP, her MIL had no reason to cancel things this time, but she was wrong. MIL said their daughter should be at least 3 years old before they get married so she could be their flower girl. This meant another delay of 2 years and 5 months.
6. The wedding got delayed, and later, at the end of the year, the couple once again decided they wanted to get married in August next year, but this time OP made it clear to her husband that she didn’t want her MIL’s intervention in this plan.
7. The couple was confident with the plan this time, and MIL hadn’t yet intervened.
8. From the dinner, OP’s fiance was to make a trip to his mother’s house to help her out with some stuff.
9. When he returned, it had happened once again. This time, and yet again, MIL wanted them to buy their own house before getting married.
10. OP couldn’t believe herself and went silent.
11. Her next move, you ask? She took her ring off and handed it to her fiance. She called off things completely!
You go, OP! This is exactly what she should’ve done, I couldn’t think of any other scenario. He is his mommy’s boy and cannot make decisions for himself. Just end this right away, because even if you did get married to this guy, it would’ve seemed like you were married to your mother-in-law because she would have been the one controlling the marriage from the first day.
There is still so much time in life; do not hurry this important decision. I know the story is not complete yet but NTA! In no way does this decision put OP in the wrong. But her MIL and her soon-to-be husband are proper AHs!
Source: Zealousideal_Cat958
12. OP made it clear she was no longer interested in marrying him.
13. OP shared that she doesn’t want to spend her entire life with a man who cannot make his own decisions.
14. She really made her son her puppet from the start.
15. The fiance cried and begged for OP to change her decision, but she had decided and wasn’t going to move. The fiance eventually left, sobbing.
16. OP felt bad afterward, which made her take this to the court of the AITA community to know if what she did was right or not!
17. When a decision is made, it must be honored!
Source: Zealousideal_Cat958
Here’s what the Twitter community had to say:
18. The kid…I never thought of this…there may be very little for OP to play here, going forward.
Via @_queen_of_sass
19. MIL is too toxic. Ruining lives out here!
Via @BookHalf_Unread
20. Either way, it is too late. There is no “unless” here now. OP is gone!
Via @Hell1s
21. MIL’s life is a mess and her mission is to make everyone else’s life a mess too.
Via @thatglitterhag
22. Just do it! There is no point in continuing with this relationship.
Via @Stregahertz
23. A simple rule to success. Just stay out of everyone else’s business!
Via @JaneTea4
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