Son Asks For Advice On How To Deal With The Toxic Parents Who Oppressed Him And Stalk Him

• By Malaika
• 5 months ago
• 6 minutes read

Parents are supposed to protect you.

Parents are frequently portrayed as the ultimate protectors, responsible for keeping their children safe from harm. Parents are expected to protect their children from any potential harm, whether it is physical or emotional. However, the concept of parental protection varies greatly depending on personal beliefs and circumstances. Many people are terrible parents and should not have had children in the first place. This may sound harsh, but people who ab*se their children mentally or physically do not deserve to be parents.

While it is true that society does intervene when the ab*se becomes too much, this is extremely rare, and most cases go unnoticed. This is a heartbreaking reality that must change. Just because someone has no physical scars does not mean they are not being harmed by their parents. Even mental ab*se can have long-term consequences and alter your entire personality. Your toxic parents may argue that you are blaming them for everything at that point, but what else can you do when you can’t even talk on the phone without having an anxiety attack?

That is the question that the original narrator of the following story poses. Scroll down to read the entire story for yourself.

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OP has apparently gone through a lot, and it is all because of his parents.

 

OP was punished for every little thing; he was even called out by his father for not smiling enough.

He even had his computer and iPad privileges taken away because his parents didn’t like his attitude.

When OP did get his iPad back, he didn’t realise that his father only gave it back for the alarm and that he was in big trouble now.

OP’s father has also never been able to control his anger, and OP has been on the receiving end of it for quite a long time.

OP’s father is also really obsessed with grades and would get angry with OP whenever he didn’t get perfect marks.

That is why OP lied about having the iPad because he didn’t want to get into more trouble and he was scared of his father.

When he did eventually come to school to pick OP up, he was seething with anger and forced OP to clean his room.

OP spent the whole day cleaning the room, but they didn’t end up sending him to a homeless shelter.

His parents also lie a lot, and thus, OP never knew what to believe and what not to believe.

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When OP was old enough to go to university, his parents didn’t change even a slight bit, and they had put a track on his phone.

They were constantly pestering him, and he had to call them many times a day.

OP’s parents also once told him that they were going to get divorced because of him.

 

Things got too much for OP, and he decided to quit university.

His parents weren’t happy with his decision, but he was going to quit regardless, and he wanted to work.

After getting his own place, OP told his father not to contact him anymore.

OP’s father clearly didn’t take this seriously and instead put all of the blame on OP.

While the OP accepts that he tended to lie sometimes, in his circumstances, that was the only thing he could do.

All of his parents have seriously harmed OP in the long run, and he deals with serious social anxiety.

He has to write a script just to order something, and every time he gets a call, he panics and thinks it might be from his father.

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OP is pretty certain that he has depression, and he has tried to harm himself at least three times in his life.

 

However, he is slowly getting better with the help of his online friends.

OP decided to contact his parents again after his surgery just to see what they were doing and whether they regretted their behaviour.

His father said that all of his toxic behaviour was because nobody stopped him and that OP should have given him feedback.

OP did meet with his parents for dinner, but it was clear that they didn’t regret a single thing.

However, this has opened the floodgates, and now they want OP to attend Thanksgiving.

There is also a summary of the long story here, but to get a better picture, I would say read the full story.

OP clearly needs psychiatric help, and there is nothing wrong with that.

The biggest problem OP is dealing with right now is that he still wants to talk to his extended family but not his parents.

Thus, OP came to Reddit to ask for strangers advice on what to do next.

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I don’t know what to address right now. It’s heartbreaking that the OP thought this was normal until a few years ago. In his mind, all parents behaved like this, but I can certainly sympathise with his situation. I’m not surprised that these parents don’t see what they did wrong, as narcissistic people believe they’re always correct. While I am not a psychologist, I cannot definitively say that there are narcissists, but that is what they sound like, with anger management issues on top. Sadly, I’m sure many people can relate to having parents like these. So, I believe the best solution for the OP is to completely avoid contact with them.

I have seen this kind of pattern before too, and it is truly heartbreaking.

While I can’t agree or disagree, I will say that seeing a therapist is probably a good idea.

It isn’t easy, but it is usually worth it.

I would say there would be no point in ever contacting them, recovered or not.

Whether it is physical or mental, it is still ab*se.

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What are your thoughts on what the OP should do? Were your parents ever as extreme as this when you were younger? If so, do you continue to communicate with them, or have you gone out of contact with them? Let us know in the comments section below, and don’t forget to share this story with your friends so they can contribute their own personal experiences.