OP reflects on a brutal past: a rough marriage due to drinking, ending in divorce. He hurt his ex-wife and got jailed but changed after anger classes. Two years later, he is sober with a nice partner. Surprisingly, their ex moved into their apartment complex and got a restraining order due to the past fight. OP says they’ve changed and can avoid contact.
He hired a lawyer to change the order. Friends, boss, and AA sponsor vouch for his good change. Shockingly, the ex-wife speaks well of OP’s progress and suggests lifting the order. The judge agrees, seeing its purpose met and the ex-wife’s words. Now OP can stay in their apartment but must avoid contact to prevent issues. The story talks about change, mistakes, and relationships. OP changed from a bad past. The ex-wife’s arrival shows how complex feelings and laws can be. Personal words in court and growth lead to an unexpected end. The story teaches that change and understanding can solve problems.
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During a troubled marriage worsened by alcoh*lism, OP lashed out at his ex-wife upon learning about her new relationship, leading to legal consequences and a restraining order.
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Two years later, OP has sobered up, found a great partner, relocated, and distanced himself from his ex-wife, acknowledging his mistakes and rebuilding his life with transparency in his current relationship.
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Unexpectedly, OP’s ex-wife and her new husband moved into his apartment complex five months ago, which OP wasn’t aware of. Encountering her in the lobby, she reminded OP of the restraining order and demanded OP move.
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OP offered to avoid her, considering they are on different floors, and he’d avoid sharing an elevator. Despite this, she insisted on enforcing the restraining order.
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OP recently signed a 2-year lease with his partner, loving their place. Unfair to relocate due to OP’s ex-wife’s move and the restraining order. Building management’s now involved.
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Could she make OP leave, even though OP lived there first? If OP avoids contact, shouldn’t it be enough?
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OP got a lawyer through a friend who checked with PO, Employer, and AA Sponsor. Aimed to change the order for no-contact, no-distance. OP shared his story with the Judge and stayed with a friend to respect the order. PO praised his compliance.
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The employer noted OP’s punctuality, sobriety, and honesty at work events. AA Sponsor praised his maturity, openness, and progress on addiction.
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The Judge heard OP’s ex-wife, who was surprised by his change. She found it unfair to move him, as she no longer felt threatened. The Judge decided to lift the order based on references, testimonies, and its fulfilled purpose.
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The Judge said OP’s ex could contact the police if she felt unsafe. He lifted the order to let OP stay, advising no contact to prevent issues. OP is happy to return home with his girlfriend.
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Now that you have read the story, it’s time to see what Redditors said about this. Read till the end to see other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your opinion at the end of this article.
OP improving himself was the best part of the story.
Being on good terms after divorce keeps everyone in peace.
The ex changed her colors pretty quickly.
That is some good insight into the story.
The ending was a relief.
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