OP and her boyfriend have been together for four years. When OP was pregnant, his aunt organized a baby shower for him, claiming it was meant to be a men-only event. However, she invited other women, including OP’s boyfriend’s mother and cousin. OP wasn’t allowed to attend. Her boyfriend didn’t stand up for her, saying it was out of his control. OP felt hurt and excluded, especially since her boyfriend didn’t attend many of her prenatal appointments and wasn’t supportive during her pregnancy. She feels like the baby shower was more for her boyfriend and his family than for her and their baby. Despite their claims that it wasn’t meant to exclude her, OP feels like the odd one out and worries about her relationship with her boyfriend and his family. She even decided not to have them at the hospital when she gave birth, feeling uncomfortable with their presence after being excluded from her own baby shower.
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1. OP wonders if they’re in the wrong for feeling excluded from their own baby shower.
2. OP and their boyfriend lived separately. They had a baby, but OP wasn’t invited to the baby shower, despite it being for their child.
3. OP’s boyfriend’s aunt claimed it was a men-only baby shower, but women were invited, including his mother and cousin. OP’s boyfriend claimed it was out of his control.
4. OP tried to accommodate everyone’s preferences but faced constant complaints. Despite making meal plans, dissatisfaction persisted even after meals were eaten.
5. OP felt excluded from the baby shower, believing both parents should attend. They expressed disappointment in their boyfriend’s absence from appointments and prioritization of his mother.
6. OP’s boyfriend was distracted during a medical appointment and unavailable to help during OP’s pregnancy, leaving them to handle tasks alone.
7. OP’s boyfriend insists the exclusion wasn’t malicious, claiming the baby shower was meant for men only, with exceptions, despite OP’s role as the mother.
8. OP appreciates the support but feels mistreated, fearing her baby is being taken from her. She wonders why her son wasn’t invited.
9. OP feels like a surrogate, unappreciated by her partner’s family. She believes the baby shower was for him and his mom, feeling excluded and disliked.
10. OP feels let down by her partner for not standing up for her. Despite claims that the event wasn’t meant to exclude her, she questions their actions.
11. OP chose not to have them at the hospital, not wanting people who excluded her to be present after the C-section.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article.
12. NTA. Your boyfriend should’ve stood up for you and insisted on including you in the baby shower. You deserve better treatment.
13. It’s unfair for them to exclude you from an event celebrating your own child. Your feelings are completely valid.
14. According to Redditors, OP shouldn’t have had a kid with such a man.
15. Such a man does not deserve anything.
16. People are breaking the news to OP.
17. What baby shower does not include the mother?
18. Excluding you was insensitive and disrespectful.
19. Not at all. Your feelings of hurt and exclusion are completely valid. Your boyfriend should’ve supported you and insisted on your inclusion.
20. It’s disappointing that your boyfriend didn’t stand up for you and ensure your inclusion in the baby shower. Excluding you was unjust.
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