Guy Asks If He’s Wrong For Not Moving From A Bench Because A Lady Felt Uncomfortable

• By Adina Tayyab
• 6 months ago
• 4 minutes read

Women often feel unsafe when traveling alone on public transport at night. It’s saddening that they can’t feel secure without worrying about strangers nearby. Men also empathize with women’s fears and try to ease them by being mindful of their presence.

In today’s story, OP, a 24-year-old, ends work exhausted at 11 pm after an 8-hour shift. At the metro, a lady asks OP to move, causing OP discomfort. Despite being tired and not wanting trouble, OP refuses to move. The lady gets upset and insults OP. OP feels conflicted, understanding the lady’s concern for safety but feeling unfairly targeted. OP seeks validation, wondering if their exhaustion justifies their refusal to move.

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Scroll down below to read the story in OP’s own words.

1. Was it wrong of OP to not change places at a public bench because a lady wanted him to?

2. OP, a 24M, finishes an exhausting 8-hour packing and shipping shift around 11 pm. He’s drained and eager to head home.

3. OP sits at a metro station bench opposite a lady, leaving ample space.

4. She asks if OP minds moving. OP ask why, knowing there’s no other place to sit. OP apologizes, explaining his exhaustion from work.

5. She insists OP moves, claiming the train will arrive soon. Despite OP’s assurance not to bother her, she grows angry and demands OP leaves.

6. OP politely refuses, citing exhaustion. Disregarding her annoyance, they return to their phone. Later, the lady moves to the opposite side.

7. Before leaving, the lady muttered insults. OP didn’t expect her reaction. They understand women might feel unsafe, but they were just tired. AITA?

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Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article.

8. OP was just tired and wanted to rest after a long day’s work. The lady’s discomfort doesn’t make OP an AH.

9. The lady could’ve moved if she felt uncomfortable.

10. OP shouldn’t be blamed for needing a seat after a tiring day.

11. Plain and simple.

12. It’s unfair to expect OP to accommodate the lady’s discomfort when there were no other seats available.

13. OP’s exhaustion should take priority here. It’s not their responsibility to manage the lady’s comfort.

14. The lady’s reaction was disproportionate. OP did nothing wrong by staying seated.

15. the lady was acting entitled, that’s it.

16. It’s understandable why OP didn’t want to move. The lady should’ve been more understanding.

17. OP’s exhaustion is valid, and they shouldn’t be judged for wanting to rest.

18. OP did the right thing by not moving.

19. It’s a public property.

20. The lady’s reaction was uncalled for. OP didn’t owe her anything.

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