Mom Asks If She’s Wrong For Not Accepting And Returning A Birthday Gift Her Half Sister Gave Her Son

• By Arsalan Sajid
• 9 months ago
• 5 minutes read

People are unable to erase their terrible memories easily, and they strive to avoid those people in their lives who were the source of their childhood misery. They must learn that avoiding persons associated with their past is not the best approach to deal with their traumas, instead should be addressed through treatment.

OP’s parents split when she and her brother were about six years old because her father had another daughter with his mistress. Following the divorce, his father was granted full custody, and they were forced to live with their stepmother and half-sister under the same roof. OP and her brother held resentment against his father’s new family, so they avoided spending time with their new sister. When she complained about their behavior to their father, they were punished, and they became more hostile to her. OP and her brother abandoned their father when they were old enough to live on their own and never saw him again. The difficulty began when OP was introduced to her half-sister as her brother-in-law’s girlfriend. Read the whole story to learn OP’s reaction after seeing her half sister as her sister-in-law.

Source: Reddit

1. OP asks if she was a-hole to return her half-sister’s present she gave to her son on his birthday.

2. OP’s parents got divorced when OP was around 6, due to having another daughter with his mistress. OP and his brother had to live with his father and his other family after he got full custody of them.

3. OP and her brother were chastised by their father for not spending time with their half sister, who had always been their father’s favorite and was given every opportunity.

4. OP and her brother stopped communicating with them after moving out of the house. OP was surprised to discover her step sister dating her husband’s brother.

5. OP’s brother-in-law and her half sister got engaged, and no one knew about OP and her sister’s relationship except her husband and his brother.

6. OP and her husband celebrated their son’s birthday with close family and friends. OP’s half sister sent a present for her son, but she wanted to return it.

7. OP received a call from her sister to know the reason for returning the gift, and she criticized OP for behaving immature.

8. OP’s husband and her brother disagreed with OP’s decision to send the present back to her.

OP was taken aback when she learned that her half sister, whom she had never wanted to meet again, would now be her brother-in-law’s bride. During their meeting, her half sister informed the family that they were friends, but OP choose to ignore her. OP celebrated her one-year-old son’s birthday and received a present from her sister, which she did not want to keep for her son. When her sister contacted to ask about the present, she returned it and explained why. She called OP immature for doing this because she sent the gift as a sister-in-law. OP’s husband and brother chastised her for returning the gift and causing a scene.

Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.

9. Redditor has a valid point.

10. Redditor highlights how her half sister introduced OP as a friend.

11. Yes, it might be the cause of not telling others about them being sisters in the party.

12. Indeed! The relationship between both sisters changed, and they should act now accordingly.

13. Redditor believes that OP would get backlash from the family to create issues with her sister while she was normal with her.

14. Yes, it was OP’s father’s fault to discriminate between his kids, and OP should not take revenge from her sister.

15. Yes, OP’s husband has to meet his family, and OP needs to compromise.

16. Redditor thinks OP needs to work on her childhood trauma because she has to meet her family at her brother-in-law’s wedding.

17. Indeed! All the family will find out about OP and his half sister’s relationship because they have the same father.

18. According to Redditor, OP shouldn’t keep secret about her half sister with her in-laws because it will come out eventually.

19. A Redditor is curious about the circumstances behind OP’s mother’s loss of complete custody of her kids.

20. Redditor advises OP to sit with her sister and try to resolve their conflict, as she is now a part of her husband’s family.

OP had a difficult history due to his father’s cruel treatment of her and her brother, but she shouldn’t exact revenge on her half sister. She should speak with her to resolve their difficulties and maintain a normal relationship with her. Since her sister was acting normally like a sister-in-law should, all blame would fall on the OP for not having a healthy connection and causing misconceptions within the family. OP has to go to therapy since she is unable to forget her past problems. What is your perspective on the OP’s situation? Share your ideas in the comments section below, and stay tuned for more Wholesomeness stories.