There’s always that sibling whose decisions never fail to leave you shaking your head in disbelief.
OP’s brother, 32, has been with his wife since high school, and they have four children together. They live in OP’s parents’ basement due to job loss over vaccination refusal. OP, 28, lives rent-free in the loft, saving for the future, and helps around the house. OP used to buy thoughtful gifts for their family but stopped after incidents of items being used without permission. Now tensions are high as OP’s brother expects more from OP, who feels their contributions to the household and gifts should be appreciated, not expected.
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1. OP wonders if they’re wrong for only buying their parents non-shareable gifts while their brother’s family lives with them.
2. OP enjoyed giving gifts, but their brother’s family always seemed to need exactly what OP gave. They “lost” OP’s mom’s bag and drank OP’s dad’s bourbon.
3. OP, 28, lives rent-free in their parents’ loft, helping with house chores and buying groceries. Their brother’s family moved into the basement after a job loss due to vaccination refusal.
4. OP enjoyed buying gifts, but their brother’s family always ended up needing exactly what OP gave. Their mom’s bag was “lost” by their niece, and their dad’s bourbon was consumed by their brother and his wife.
5. OP treats their parents to special outings they love: a show with just their mom and a steak dinner followed by a fancy cocktail for their dad.
6. OP keeps groceries in their loft, cooking meals for their parents or preparing food with their dad. Their brother questions this and asks about gifts OP stopped buying.
7. OP’s brother claims OP lives rent-free and should contribute more. When asked about his own contributions, he cited fatigue and family busyness.
8. OP works full-time, volunteers, pursues theater sports, and helps extensively with household tasks, yard work, errands, and caring for their grandmother. Their brother dismissed these efforts rudely.
9. Now there’s tension with OP’s parents upset. His wife called OP an a****** for not sharing treats. OP can’t afford extras for non-contributors.
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10. OP’s actions are fair and considerate given their brother’s lack of contribution.
11. OP is justified in setting boundaries given their significant contributions.
12. OP’s brother’s family should appreciate what OP does instead of demanding more.
13. OP is right to keep their gifts and groceries separate given past experiences.
14. OP’s contributions are generous, and it’s unreasonable to demand more.
15. OP’s brother needs to understand that everyone should contribute equally.
16. OP is doing more than their fair share of helping out around the house.
17. It’s unfair to expect OP to share everything they buy for their parents.
18. OP’s brother and his family need to step up and help out.
19. It’s clear that OP’s brother’s family should contribute more instead of expecting OP to do everything.
20. NTA because OP has every right to keep their groceries separate and treat their parents.
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