Welcoming a new addition to the family is a joyous occasion, marked by an overflow of emotions from both parents and grandparents. However, amidst the excitement, everyone must maintain a balance and prioritize the well-being of the newborn. While grandparents may be eager to shower the baby with affection, it’s important to ensure that such expressions of love align with the parent’s wishes and, most importantly, the medical advice provided for the baby’s health and safety.
In a recent Reddit post, a u/ZealousidealTea5062 shared a concerning encounter where her mother-in-law disregarded paediatrician recommendations regarding baby care. Despite clear guidance, the mother-in-law persisted in her attempts to either kiss the newborn or pressure the OP to cease kissing the baby in her presence.
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1. OP asks if is she an AITA for not agreeing to stop kissing her own baby.
2. A young couple, both 25, have a six-week-old daughter, their first baby and the first grandchild in both families.
3. Their paediatrician advised them not to let anyone else kiss their six-week-old daughter for at least 8-12 weeks. Both families have respected this rule, although there has been some minor grumbling from the husband’s side.
4. Last weekend at OP’s in-laws’ house, after breastfeeding her sleepy daughter, she kissed her forehead before laying her down for a nap on her chest.
5. OP’s mother-in-law, upon noticing the baby being kissed, made a passive-aggressive remark insinuating a change in the rules set by the paediatrician.
6. OP was confused and asked what she meant, confirming the paediatrician’s recommendation hadn’t changed. MIL then accused her of breaking the rules by kissing her baby.
7. OP clarified that the recommendation allowed only OP and her husband to kiss their daughter, but MIL argued and implied OP was dishonest.
8. MIL kept arguing until OP snapped, pointing out it should be obvious their rules applied to what they allowed others to do with their baby.
9. Later, MIL entered and “apologized,” admitting it was a kneejerk reaction and she was confused and upset. She asked if OP could refrain from kissing her baby in front of MIL until she’s allowed to do so.
10. MIL and SIL accuse OP of disrespect and hypocrisy, but she stands firm in her decision to prioritize her baby’s safety over their discomfort.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this.
11. Is she going to request you stop bre*stfeeding too? She needs to respect your decisions and boundaries.
12. It’s not about baby-kissing; it’s about MIL respecting boundaries.
13. Avoid bringing the baby around them to prevent further conflict.
14. The obsession with kissing others’ babies, particularly infants, is concerning.
15. OP is NTA for following medical advice and providing essential skin contact to your baby. Your husband should handle interactions with his mother.
16. If the rule bothers her, she can stay away until she’s allowed to kiss the baby.
17. If it’s such an issue for her, tell her she can see the baby once she’s allowed to kiss.
18. If she can’t accept that being a grandma comes with boundaries, her involvement isn’t necessary.
19. Another Redditor shared how her MIL also attempts to kiss her baby when she is not watching or claims she’s “just sniffing” while rubbing her face on him. So now she doesn’t leave them alone together.
20. MIL will need to accept the rules or miss out on seeing the baby during the early months.
Navigating boundaries with family, especially regarding the care of a newborn, can be challenging. While the mother-in-law’s desire to show affection is understandable, it’s crucial to respect the parents’ decisions, especially when based on medical advice. Hopefully, through open communication and mutual understanding, tensions can be eased, and the focus can remain on the well-being of the baby. Do share your thoughts in the comments section below.
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