Family ties can present a very wide range of happiness and issues as well. However, when it comes to inheritance, many people end up going through a lot as it’s usually a painful and frustrating affair. It turns into a horrible experience when people are excluded from their parent’s will while their siblings enjoy the advantage, particularly if the justification is their previously comfortable financial status. Being refused from a parent’s inheritance can inflict severe emotional scarring on a person and dent their sense of belongingness and self-esteem within their family, adding on to the trauma of losing a parent. OP experienced something along these lines recently and went to ask Reddit users if she was in wrong for refusing to pay for her mother’s funeral. See the whole story down below:
#2) OP has three younger brothers and is the most successful. Her siblings treated her like an ATM till she put a stop to it.
#3) OP’s father passed away 4 years ago and she paid for his funeral. After that, her mother’s health started declining and OP was there for her.
#4) OP’s mother died 2 weeks ago, with one of her brothers having power of attorney. In the will, OP was excluded completely.
#5) OP mentions that while yes, it was her mom’s money to do whatever she liked with, it doesn’t mean it wasn’t hurtful.
#6) When they were cleaning their mom’s apartment, OP was handed a bill and was expected to pay for the entirety of the funeral which she refused to do.
#7) OP and her brothers argued but even after calming down OP believes she did the right thing.
#8) OP leaves us a happy update saying everything has been resolved and she would be paying a quarter portion after her brothers apologized.
Setting firm boundaries with your family is often a pretty tough challenge, yet preserving your mental peace is what needs to be put at priority status in these situations. Frustration and anger can come into play when making big decisions, but at the end of the day, it’s pretty obvious to me who was in the right and who was not. See what Redditors have to say about this situation:
#9) I absolutely agree with this, if you contributed to expensive choices or not is definitely important to consider.
#10) Agreed on that.
#11) Why were they acting like OP was an ATM in the first place. Crazy.
#12) That’s very true, they should put that effort in.
#13) It’s normal for it to be done this way.
#14) Exactly!!!
#15) They didn’t play their part in her life but they could at least play their part at her funeral.
#16) It’s absolutely understandable for OP to feel the way she felt.
#17) The fact that they didn’t contribute to the care at all?THAT’S unfair.
#18) Their opinion is understandable but still incorrect.
#19) That’s a pretty bold idea.
#20) Yeah, it’s usually paid from the estate.
What did you guy’s think of this one? Leave a comment down below and let us know what your opinion is and if you think OP is the a**hole or not. Remember to stay tuned to Defused for more.
