When parents abdicate their responsibility to meet their children’s needs, their children struggle to become self-sufficient and independent. The disadvantage of this style of parenting is that the youngsters become insensitive and unwilling to aid others after experiencing this careless conduct from their parents.
At the age of 16, OP made his own lunch for school, something he had been doing since the age of eleven due to his mother’s cancer and his father’s unwillingness to assist him in food preparation. His father married another lady two years ago, and she has three children aged five, seven, and eight. His stepmother expected that OP would assist her in taking care of his siblings, so she asked him to prepare lunches for them as well. OP made it clear to his stepmother that her children were solely her duty and that he would never make food for them. OP’s father and his wife threatened him with not receiving any of the dinners they prepared for the family, so OP began purchasing his own supper supplies and preparing them himself. OP’s stepmother sent her children to school without lunch in an attempt to persuade OP to relent, but in vain. She became irritated and called the OP names for not treating them as family. Read the entire story to get the OP’s point of view, then express your thoughts in the section below.
Source: Reddit
1. OP asks if he was an a-hole for refusing to make food for his father’s wife’s kids.
2. At the age of 16, OP used to make his own school lunches because, following his mother’s cancer diagnosis, his father never assisted him in getting one.
3. Two years ago, OP’s father married a woman who was already the mother of three young kids.
4. OP’s father and his wife wanted him to prepare his siblings lunches too, and they were shocked when OP refused to accept them as his siblings and took their responsibility.
5. OP’s patents forbade him to eat their dinners, and OP started to buy his own dinner stuff to make the food for himself.
6. OP’s stepmother sent her kids without lunch to make OP relent, but he never felt bad because feeding the kids was her responsibility, not OP’s.
7. On Monday, OP made a nice dinner for himself, and his stepmom demanded that he make one for her kids too, but he refused.
8. OP’s father’s wife tried to manipulate him to help her like a family, but he told her clearly that they were not his family.
Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.
9. According to Redditor, both OP’s father and his wife were not completing their parental duties and should be reported.
10. Redditor thinks that OP should talk to an adult about the matter to get some support.
11. Indeed! OP had handled his situation maturely.
12. Redditor emphasizes on reporting to a teacher or a doctor if kids face any mistreatment from their own parents.
13. Yes, that sounds absurd, how a mother can withhold food from her own young kid.
14. OP’s stepmother assumed that OP would treat her and her kids as family, but OP didn’t feel family obligations towards them.
15. Redditor disapproves of OP’s stepmom attitude to send her kids to school without lunch to guilt OP.
16. According to OP, it was his stepmother’s fault to think that OP would take care of her kids and that she could get free from her responsibility.
17. Redditor criticized OP’s stepmother’s behavior of not giving food to her own kids to manipulate OP.
18. Redditor advises OP to record everything to use the evidence against her.
19. OP couldn’t believe that her stepmother didn’t care about her own kids and wanted to live as a childless couple.
20. According to Redditor, the teachers definitely report the CPS if the kids’ needs haven’t been met by their parents.
OP was taking care of himself from a very young age, and he was displaying the same callous behavior that he had inherited from his father. He crushed OP’s stepmother’s hopes that she would give up her children to him and spend a childless life with her husband. Since OP was already making enough money to buy his own meals, he should leave the location after he becomes an adult and complain to CPS if they attempt to penalize him for disobeying their orders. How do you feel about the circumstances of the OP? Comment with your ideas below, and check out Wholesomeness for more stories.
