When a woman turned to Reddit’s “Am I the As*hole” for advice on a nutty neighborhood issue, users quickly weighed in with their verdict.
OP and their wife moved to a rural area to escape restrictions. Amanda asked them to stop feeding birds peanuts due to her son’s nut allergy. They agreed. Later, Amanda demanded they cut down their walnut trees. OP refused, offering to remove the trees for $5000 plus compensation. Some neighbors support OP, but others see fault on both sides.
Scroll down below to read the story in OP’s own words.
1. OP wonders if they’re an a**hole for refusing to cut down walnut trees despite a neighbor’s child having a life-threatening nut allergy.
2. OP and their wife moved to a rural area to escape HOAs. Amanda, a neighbor, visited, concerned about nuts on their patio due to her son’s severe allergy.
3. OP explained peanuts were for birds and squirrels. Amanda, concerned about her son’s nut allergy, requested they stop, fearing nuts might reach her home.
4. OP felt defensive about rural living, but their wife convinced them to switch to seeds to accommodate Amanda’s son’s nut allergy.
5. We switched to seeds, reducing bird visits. It seemed a fair compromise for the boy’s sake. We rarely see Amanda, but remain cordial.
6. The big issue came 2 weeks ago when Amanda pounded on our door after OP started selling various items, including walnuts, from their land.
7. OP’s non-confrontational wife admitted to Amanda that they had 10 walnut trees on their land. Amanda insisted they be cut down, exclaiming, “Well, obviously they’ll need to be cut down.
8. Amanda showed up with a petition demanding they cut down their trees. OP argued that the trees were decades old and unlikely to pose a risk.
9. Amanda threatened to involve the authorities, but OP retorted, suggesting Amanda pay for the trees’ removal, plus lost income and expenses.
10. OP stood firm, suggesting Amanda pay for tree removal. His wife agrees but thinks he was rude. Neighbors call him an a**hole, blaming him for potential allergic reactions.
11. OP clarified her child’s allergies to peanuts, nuts, eggs, and shellfish. The local grocery stores nuts in sealed containers, and the school is nut-free.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article.
12. OP made reasonable accommodations for the child’s allergies. Amanda’s demands seem unreasonable given the circumstances.
13. Sounds like Amanda’s overreacting. NTA for refusing to cut down mature trees. It’s not OP’s responsibility to alter their property.
14. OP has already made significant changes to accommodate the child’s allergies.
15. Amanda’s demands are unreasonable and excessive.
16. OP was willing to compromise, but Amanda’s demands are way out of line.
17. OP has made reasonable compromises. Amanda’s demands are excessive and unreasonable.
18. It’s obvious that OP has made efforts to accommodate the child’s allergies. Amanda’s demands are unreasonable.
19. It seems like OP has done everything they can to accommodate the child’s allergies.
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