It is human instinct to look for all the qualities in a mate without considering one’s own circumstances. People need to realize that other people are real people, not just machines that will serve them whenever they need it. The ideal couple is one in which each member shares obligations and tasks with the other in order to free up time for each other’s companionship.
OP described a scenario in which her spouse asked her why she was not dancing for him at night in front of her in-laws. OP had been married to her spouse for six years and had three children with him. She went to her in-laws for Thanksgiving, and her BIL brags about his girlfriend, who dances for him every night after Zumba classes. OP’s husband became envious and inquired why his wife never danced for him like her. All of the family members began teasing OP, which saddened her, and she explained why she didn’t have time for the dance. Read the complete story to read about OP’s response, and give your thoughts on it in the comments area down below.
Source: Reddit
1. OP asks if she is an a-hole for telling her husband the main reason for not dancing in front of him every night?
2. OP is married to a man aged 37 years and is a mother of three kids. She made it to her in-laws house on Thanksgiving dinner.
3. At the dinner table, OP’s BIL started talking about his girlfriend’s new hobby which is dancing for him every night after her Zumba classes. This made OP’s husband jealous and he started asking OP to dance in front of him as well.
4. OP thought her husband was only kidding but no, he was very sure about his question. Everyone started making fun of her by sarcastically singing the ‘dancing monkey’ song.
5. OP got angry and started ranting about how busy her routine is. She gets back home and starts cleaning, feeding kids, doing dishes and gets exhausted with no time left to dance.
6. OP’s husband got embarrassed and awkward in front of his entire family and wanted to leave.
7. OP felt guilty for ruining Thanksgiving for everyone and mishandling the situation.
Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.
8. Redditor supports OP and tells her that she can’t be a doormat for her entire life.
9. OP’s husband embarrassed her in front of everyone and it was his wrongdoing so OP should not feel guilty.
10. OP has a ridiculous husband who doesn’t help his wife in household chores but expects her to dance for him.
11. Redditor tells OP that she should not tolerate being compared to other woman.
12. OP’s husband just embarrassed himself in front of his family.
13. This white man charges 50 dollars an hour and is ready to dance for OP’s husband.
14. OP’s husband should realize that his wife has more important stuff in life to do and goals to achieve than being his doormat.
15. OP should ask her husband to help her with the household chores as she is also working and making a career.
16. OP’s husband used UNO reverse card.
17. Redditor is right about it.
18. Indeed, OP’s husband could ask his wife to dance with him rather than dance for him.
19. OP’s husband is acting like an immature kid.
20. OP is just sad about her husband’s attitude.
OP’s husband wanted everything perfect for himself without sharing the burden of responsibility with his wife, which is truly unreasonable. He wanted OP to be the best wife, best mother, best caretaker, and also the best dancer, but he forgot that she is a human, not a robot. OP’s husband needs to work on his own behavior and help his wife to lessen her burden. OP did the right thing to clear her point of view in front of her in-laws since they were making fun of her, and her husband got upset after facing the truth. What is your opinion about the OP’s situation? Share your thoughts in the comment section, and stay tuned to Wholesomeness for more stories.
