Mother Berates Daughter For Not Wanting To Make One Of Her Rooms A Guest Room For Their Family

• By Arsalan Sajid
• 4 months ago
• 5 minutes read

Parents expect their children to spare time for them in their busy schedules. They also hope that their children value them by making accommodations for their visits to their houses. On the other side, children require personal space and have moved away from their parents’ homes to enjoy living alone and independently without parental involvement.

OP struggled all her life, living in a one-bedroom apartment with her parents. She moved away from her parents’ house because her college was 16 hours away and she needed to share space with roommates. OP visited her parents once a year throughout her five years of study. As she moved to graduate school, which was 6 hours away from her parents’ residence, she was fortunate to find a two-bedroom apartment to live alone at an inexpensive price. She opted to use her additional room as a work or exercise space. Read the complete story to find out how OP’s mother reacted when she told her about her intention for using her extra bedroom.

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1. OP asks if she was an a-hole to refuse to make a guest room for her family.

2. OP moved to a two-bedroom apartment after living her whole life in less space. OP stayed away from home to study in college for five years and met her parents once a year.

3. OP was fortunate to find an affordable apartment with an extra room for use as a work or fitness space. OP’s mother requested that OP make it a guest room for them.

4. OP wanted to use the extra space for herself because the guest room would be useless most of the time. OP’s mother tried hard to persuade her through examples from others.

5. OP mentioned that one of her friends regretted setting up the guest room, and that another friend’s family lived 2.5 hours away, so they required a room for their regular trips.

6. OP’s mother attempted to persuade OP that her grandma might move to her parents’ home permanently and would like to visit OP as well.

7. OP valued her own space and did not want her family to visit her more than she could tolerate, thus she was very opposed to make a guest room that allowed them to stay longer.

OP’s mother wanted her to convert the additional bedroom into a guest room so that whenever they came to see her, they would have a somewhere to stay. The OP denied the suggestion because the guest room would be unused for the majority of the time, and she wanted a place for herself. OP’s mother was disappointed with her daughter’s decision and chastised her for not thinking about her parents’ well-being. OP told her that she always sacrificed her bedroom for them and slept on the couch, so they should have no problems sleeping with her. OP’s mother was adamant about convincing her daughter to take the guest room, telling her of her grandmother’s permanent move to the United States. OP refused to accept her opinion since she valued her personal space and did not want her parents to visit her for an extended period of time.

Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.

8. Redditor indicates that OP’s mother may want to move her grandmother with her.

9. Redditor believes that OP’s mother might be planning to move with her as she was forcing too much for a guest room.

10. Redditor used to sleep on the couch or air mattress at their son’s place and asks OP to do the same.

11. Redditor forbade OP to make a guest room after experiencing the same situation with their father.

12. Redditor is against making a separate room for unwanted forever guests.

13. Yes, OP should stop the conversation with her mother when she brings up the topic.

14. Redditor supports OP in preparing her place according to her own choice.

15. Indeed! OP should stop discussing the extra room with her mother.

16. Redditor wants OP to quit talking to her mother about the matter anytime she brings it up, so she understands your inability to discuss it.

17. Yes, it’s OP’s home, and she has the full right to set up the place as she likes.

18. Redditor favors OP for thinking about herself only while setting her house.

19. Redditor used a brilliant idea to get rid of the guest, who lived with them for six months.

20. Redditor has a valid point.

OP spent her entire life in a one-bedroom apartment and never had the benefit of greater space. Now that she has a two-bedroom apartment, she wants to use the extra space for work or exercise, but her mother wants a guest room, which means OP has even less space to cherish. The major reason for getting two rooms was not to accommodate her mother, but to have more space, and if she knew she had to construct a guest room, she would never work hard to buy a slightly larger apartment. OP valued her personal space, and having her mother around all the time would make it difficult for her to relax. She should avoid discussing it with her mother and finish the topic when her mother brings it up. What do you think about it? Share your ideas in the comments section below, and stay tuned to Wholesomeness for more tales.