Do you think it’s important to have closure after a breakup? If yes, how can you get it? Do you need to talk to the person, or does it happen over time? I never needed closure, but I get why people want it. Going from being close to someone to strangers isn’t easy. Even if you don’t want to be with them, you might still miss them. I think “getting closure” should have limits. If not, you might end up reopening old wounds.
OP had been dating a medical student for nine months. He met up with a girl from his past during his spring break, claiming it was for closure. He confessed the girl stayed over, despite insisting nothing happened. Feeling torn, OP ended things, reiterating the breakup later.
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Scroll down below to read the story in OP’s own words.
1. OP’s partner wants to see his ex for closure. Can OP move on? Is it foolish to try?
2. OP has been dating a medical student for 9 months. Things were smooth until now, as he’s busy with spring break.
3. While visiting, he tells OP they need to talk about a girl he briefly dated 8 years ago. He met her out of town and refused her advances.
4. OP’s partner chooses to meet the girl instead of spending the night with OP, claiming it’s to close an unfinished chapter.
5. OP ended things after the revelation but returned to discuss. OP expressed discomfort with the situation, feeling like a second option, but he claimed it’s for him.
6. OP struggled to move on, especially when partner admitted the girl stayed over. OP’s past experience with infidelity adds to the pain.
7. OP feels hurt as partner knows about past relationships. OP is torn and feels undeserving of such treatment but struggles with conflicting emotions.
8. OP ended things after nine months, but feelings linger. In an update, OP reiterated the breakup, wishing him luck, knowing she deserves better. Additionally, he let her stay over due to drunkenness.
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Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article.
9. OP deserves better than someone who’s unsure of her. Good riddance!
10. You did the right thing, OP. You deserve someone who respects you and is sure about you.
11. What a rollercoaster! You made the right decision, OP. Stay strong.
12. Wishing you all the best in finding someone who truly values you.
13. Leaving him is the best option at this moment.
14. Muppet is the right word for it.
15. Go, OP!
16. OP would do the right thing by ending things.
17. He’s really not meant for you.
18. Such things would not end up well for OP.
19. Time to wave goodbye.
20. You need not to choose him now.
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