Woman Tells Her Brother’s Fiance That They Don’t Owe Her A Family, Drama Ensues

• By Arsalan Sajid
• July 17, 2024
• 5 minutes read

True relationships are not established overnight; they take time and effort to demonstrate their depth and significance. Others should not expect them to be valued equally to their blood relatives because they have been tied to them since birth, while the new one is still growing.

Nico, OP’s brother, proposed to Jenny after dating her for two years. Jenny was in foster care and had no family of her own. She became overjoyed at the prospect of receiving the new one through her fiancé and began to meddle in all aspects of OP’s family life. Jenny appeared to establish an instant relationship with them rather than developing one that they did not welcome. She began calling OP’s parents, mom and dad, despite their requests not to, and attempted to involve herself in every family disagreement and social gathering that crossed the line. All of the siblings were gathered at their parents’ house, and OP was discussing a weekend vacation with her sister and mother. Jenny interrupted the conversation by inviting herself to accompany them. Read the complete story to find out about OP’s reaction and the consequences.

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1. OP wonders if she was a-hole for telling her brother’s fiancé that they didn’t owe her a family.

2. OP’s stepbrother engaged with Jenny, who grew up in foster care and had no family of her own. Jenny wanted to establish immediate contacts with OP’s family, which was impossible.

3. Jenny wanted to include herself in all family matters and events without any boundaries. On their complaint, Nico promised to talk to her.

4. OP and her sibling, along with their partners, went to stay at their parents place. OP planned a family weekend trip, and Jenny added herself without waiting for the invitation.

5. OP got annoyed and criticized Jenny for inviting herself. Jenny ranted that she wanted to be in, as she didn’t have her own family. OP replied that they didn’t owe her one.

6. Nico came to confront OP for upsetting Jenny, but their parents defended her. Nico and Jenny left the house and kept low contact with them afterwards.

7. Nico told OP that she hurt Jenny very much by calling her an outsider. OP felt bad but believed that Jenny overstepped and never made a genuine effort to build a relationship with them.

8. OP was perplexed about whether she should apologize to Nico or Jenny, as she didn’t want to be the reason that Nico stopped talking to the family.

9. OP tried to tell Jenny to not be intrusive in her personal life, and OP’s parents always told her that they weren’t comfortable calling mom and dad by her. Nico promised to talk to her but never did.

10. OP couldn’t explain her point to the commenters who were saying that after engaging Nico, Jenny became their part of the family.

11. OP feels that no one can launch herself into the family as a deserving member, no matter how badly she needs to be.

12. OP had a difficult relationship with her biological father, and she had to work diligently to get the love of her stepfather.

13. OP’s stepfather never loved her for being her wife’s daughter but accepted her gradually after seeing her personality and behavior. OP wanted the same thing for Jenny.

OP made it clear to Jenny that she should not intrude on their every family holiday simply because she would be their brother’s future wife. Jenny wanted to be in because she considered them her only family, but OP emphasized that while they sympathized with her, it did not mean they owed her a new one. Jenny became so distraught that Nico came to scold OP about injuring his fiancé. OP’s parents supported OP because Nico never told Jenny to reconsider her actions. He left the house with Jenny and maintained minimal touch with family members. OP wasn’t sure if she ought to apologize for telling them the truth honestly.

Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.

14. According to Redditor, OP’s comment was unnecessarily cruel.

15. Redditor believes that OP didn’t like her brother’s fiancé, hence criticizing her for trying to insert herself in every family matter.

16. According to Redditor, Nico was wrong because he didn’t tell his fiancé how to behave in front of his family.

17. Indeed! Family and friendships are cultivated; they are never born automatically after getting married to a family member.

18. Redditor criticized OP’s brother for failing to convince his fiancé to stop being so bothersome.

19. Yes, Jenny had been annoying but not malicious.

20. Redditor supports OP since Jenny actually overstepped her boundaries.

OP and her parents were not opposed to accepting Jenny as a family member; they simply wanted some time to allow her to participate in the activities that were designated only for their biological relatives. Jenny couldn’t see why she needed to work so hard to show herself worthy of being one of them; instead, she felt entitled to all of her fiancé’s family’s devotion. It wasn’t her fault because she didn’t have a family of her own, but her fiancé could have taught her how to behave in front of them so they wouldn’t be uncomfortable. OP should apologize to them for her brother’s sake, but she should explain her point of view in a more appropriate manner that will not offend them.What is your perspective on the OP’s statement? Share your thoughts in the comments section below, and stay tuned to Wholesomeness for more stories.