Mom Uninvites Her MIL And Sister-in-Law After They Ruin Her Gender Reveal Party
Parents are excited about their first child and want to celebrate every occasion linked to their newborn, such as the gender reveal, baby shower, etc. They want to plan everything flawlessly, but what is the point of having a gender reveal ceremony if all of the relatives already know the gender?
OP described a similar event in which she trusted her sister-in-law to plan a gender reveal party, but she wrecked it by alerting her mother, who spearheaded it for the entire family. OP was 7 months pregnant, and her husband’s entire family was looking forward to the arrival of their first child. OP’s parents passed away during the pandemic, and as the only kid, he had no close relatives. She was very close to her sister-in-law and mother-in-law and planned everything for the baby with them. Read the entire article to find out how OP reacted when she requested her sister-in-law to plan a gender reveal party but she failed to keep the gender a secret.
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1. OP wonders if she was wrong to not invite her in-laws to all activities and to warn her husband that he was not welcome if he put pressure on her.
2. OP was 7 months pregnant with her first kid, the first in her husband’s family, which added to her in-laws’ joy.
3. OP lost her parents during the pandemic and, being the only child, had no close relations. OP’s husband’s family accepted her, and she was very close to her in-laws.
4. OP wanted a gender reveal ceremony and trusted her sister-in-law to plan it. To OP’s surprise, all of her friends and family began congratulating her on her new baby boy prior to the party.
5. OP’s sister-in-law confessed that she let it slip to her mother, who told everyone the sex of the baby. OP was heartbroken and canceled the party.
6. OP stopped going baby shopping with them and wanted space; hence, she didn’t invite them to her baby shower.
7. OP’s husband criticized her for being too harsh on the mistake his mother and sister made because OP didn’t want them in her life at the moment or at the time of her labor.
8. OP refused to allow her husband to accompany her during labor since he attempted to side with his mother.
9. OP’s husband got angry at her for not letting him have the moment of birth of his child, which was his legitimate right.
10. OP explained his emotional attachment to the gender reveal ceremony as it reminded her of her late mother’s dream to plan it herself.
11. OP never said that she would completely cut her relationships with her in-laws, but she needed some space at this crucial time of her pregnancy.
12. OP wanted her husband at the time of birth but couldn’t accept his wish to bring her mother-in-law because she would be stressed out after seeing her.
OP was shocked to receive so many congratulations from family and friends for having a baby boy three days before the gender reveal ceremony, so she confronted her sister-in-law about it. OP’s sister-in-law admitted that it was passed from her to her mother, who informed others. OP became so disappointed that she stopped talking to her in-laws. Her husband accused OP of being too harsh on his family because she did not invite them to her baby shower. OP informed him that if he chose her mother and sister’s side, he would not be permitted to attend her labor. OP’s husband became enraged because OP refused to allow him to witness the birth of his first child and slept on the couch.
Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.
13. Redditor advises OP to get her husband on her side before the time of birth.
14. Redditor wants OP to think seriously about her future relationship with her husband and her in-laws.
15. Yes, OP’s mother-in-law is capable of doing this too, which is a matter of concern.
16. Redditor thinks that OP’s sister-in-law made an honest mistake, but her mother-in-law was more at fault for spreading it around.
17. OP accepted the fact that her sister-in-law slipping up about the gender was a mistake, but not informing her about it is what OP couldn’t forgive.
18. Redditor is doing a commendable job by keeping the secret well.
19. Redditor chastised OP’s sister-in-law for breaking OP’s trust.
20. Redditor fully supports the OP’s decision to not let her mother-in-law in at the time of delivery, as it would increase her stress.
OP was correct in her reaction because they breached their trust and put her under unnecessary stress in such condition. OP’s husband should accept her condition and allow her to complete her pregnancy without further stress, but she should not advise him not to come during labor because he has every right to be present while she delivers their first child. OP was emotionally linked to her baby’s gender reveal event because of her late mother and so could not forgive her in-laws at the time, but she would forgive them after the birth. What is your perspective on the OP’s decision? Share your thoughts in the comments section below, and stay tuned to Wholesomeness for more stories.
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