Family Expects Teenager To Delay College To Help With Her Sister’s Baby, Asks If She’s Wrong For Moving Away

• By Malaika
• 5 months ago
• 5 minutes read

Being selfish is acceptable at times.

While we are frequently taught that being selfish is a bad trait, there are times when prioritising our own needs is critical to our well-being. It is critical to recognise that prioritising ourselves is not only acceptable but also necessary for our mental and emotional health. While I may use the term selfish, I believe it is more akin to self-care. While it is admirable to care for others and assist those in need, doing so at the expense of your own well-being is not always desirable.

I understand that people sacrifice themselves for others all the time, but there has to be a limit, and if you do it too often, you basically become a doormat. People will assume that you will do anything for them, so they will continue to ask for more. That is the type of thing that occurs in this particular story. OP’s sister appears to believe that she is owed assistance with her child by OP for some reason. Even their parents support the sister. All OP wants to do is go to college. Is this too much to ask for?

Scroll below to form your own opinion.

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Taking care of a baby alone is not an easy thing to do.

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OP is old enough to go to college now, which means she will be leaving behind her sister, who is a single mother.

OP’s sister Mary got pregnant when she was 14, and things have been hard for everyone since they live in a two-bedroom apartment.

OP always had to help her twin with the baby and spent the time she wasn’t at school with the baby.

OP has lived her life without any privacy, and she always felt alone because the baby got all the attention.

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OP also spent a few years feeling resentful of her twin and the baby, but she eventually matured out of it and understood that there was nothing to be done.

When OP got a job, she did get some time away from her sister, but she also had to contribute most of her earnings towards the baby.

OP got into a good college out of state with a nearly full scholarship, but her parents were less than happy.

Rather than congratulating her, OP’s parents told her that she was beginning to be selfish and that she needed to help her sister with the baby.

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It is clear that the parents and sister have grown accustomed to OP simply listening to everything they say. They believe that if they can ensure that the OP listens to them and stays at home, they will be able to receive free labour. I would expect this from the sister, but it’s unfortunate that even her parents aren’t on her side either. It is critical for OP to stand up for herself and pursue her own goals, even if it means going against their family’s wishes. It may be difficult, but in the end, the OP’s happiness and future should come first.

Most people in the comments were gobsmacked by the parent’s behaviour.

OP deserves to do what she wants.

OP shouldn’t feel guilty for wanting to have a life.

I would not be surprised if they did something like that.

They are getting free labour after all.

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I feel bad for Mary, but that kid isn’t OP’s responsibility.

OP deserves to feel proud of herself.

They can take care of the kid; they just don’t want to.

OP is allowed to live her life the way she wants to.

I hope OP has a great time at college.

OP did nothing wrong in this situation at all.

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What are your thoughts on the family drama? Do you believe Op should do what is best for her instead of listening to her parents? Or do you believe it is the OP’s responsibility to assist her sister with the child? What would you do if you were in this situation? Let us know in the comments below, and don’t forget to share this story with your friends so they can join in with their own thoughts.