Man Pushes His Neurologist Wife To Have Kid, Breaks Down After He Has To Be A SAHD And Take Care Of The Kid
Those who prioritize their careers constantly avoid taking on personal commitments like getting married or starting a family. They see them as obstacles that prevent them from succeeding and growing in their fields. They must realize that life would be meaningless without a spouse or children because these things provide them with warmth and love.
OP was a neurologist who enjoyed serving her patients. She was a career-oriented person who worked hard to become a physician despite numerous rejections. OP married her spouse four years ago, who worked in marketing and made three times less than her. Before they married, OP told him that her primary priority was her career and that she had no plans to have biological children. Her spouse was first ok, but changed his mind after viewing her friend’s baby. OP became pregnant by accident and wanted to abort, but her husband insisted she retain the child. He vowed to quit his career and remain at home with their child. Read the tale to find out what occurred when they became parents of a daughter.
Source: Reddit
Image Credits: Tatiana Syrikova (not the actual photo)
1. OP asks if she is an a-hole to tell her husband that she wouldn’t agree to have a child if she knew that he would go back on their agreement.
2. OP was a neurologist and a career-oriented physician who loved to help her patients. OP got her medical degree after so many rejections and hard work.
3. OP had been married to her husband for four years, who worked in marketing. OP had already told her husband about her unwillingness to have biological children, and he understood.
4. Her husband started pressing OP to have children after seeing his friend’s newborn baby. OP wanted to wait for some years but got pregnant accidentally.
5. OP wanted to abort, but her husband forced her to keep the baby and agreed to quit his job and stay at home to take care of their daughter.
6. OP earned more money than her husband; hence, it was decided that he would leave his job, not OP.
7. OP was in the early years of her career and worked as a physician, whereas her husband had been in his career for 15 years.
8. OP told him that she would never accept to be a housewife and stay at home all day.
9. OP didn’t want to put her daughter in daycare because of her own bad experience. She couldn’t trust strangers to leave her child until she was old enough to express herself.
10. OP wanted to return to her practice when her daughter was 9 weeks old and had to leave her husband alone with her daughter on weekends to attend a medical conference.
11. OP’s husband broke down to be left alone for the weekend and wanted OP to extend her leave while he regained his job. He asked OP to work from home or send their daughter to daycare.
12. OP got angry with her husband for backing out of his promise and regretted believing him. OP loved her daughter but couldn’t sacrifice her career and stay at home.
OP decided to return to work after her daughter was nine weeks old. She had to attend an out-of-state conference and left her husband and daughter alone for the weekend. After returning, OP noticed that her husband’s conduct was strange. When asked, he said that he couldn’t sit at home all day, feeling confined and lonely, and that OP should prolong her leave. He conveyed his desire for OP to abandon her practice and work from home. OP was startled by his demand and declared that she would never have his child if she knew he would break his word.
Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.
13. Redditor advises OP to get a nanny.
14. Redditor’s husband works from home and they hire a nanny to take care of their daughter.
15. Yes, hiring a professional nanny is a far better idea than hiring some college students to babysit a baby.
16. Redditor, being a professional nanny, supports the idea.
17. Yes, OP’s husband can apply for a remote job and monitor a nanny while working from home.
18. Redditor is suspicious about OP’s husband’s plans.
19. Redditor proposes that OP discuss obtaining a nanny with him and, if he insists on her staying at home, leave that untrustworthy person.
20. Redditor has valid points.
After making a vow to look after their child and never interfere with OP’s profession, OP’s husband has since broken that commitment. OP now has to choose a compromise approach to solving this issue. One option might be to hire a professional nanny, but her spouse must work remotely in order to keep an eye on the nanny while OP is in her clinic. OP’s husband ought to encourage his wife to advance professionally and consider working from home for a while. How do you feel about the circumstances of OP? Comment with your thoughts in the space provided, and follow Wholesomeness for more stories.
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