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Mother Shuts Down All “Black” Names That Might Make Child’s Life Harder

  • By Hussain
  • September 8, 2023
  • 4 minutes read
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Expecting a baby is a joyous occasion, filled with excitement and anticipation. One of the earliest decisions that parents make is choosing the perfect name for their child. However, the process can be complex, especially when cultural influences and personal experiences come into play. In this article, we delve into the thought-provoking dilemma faced by a mixed-race couple who grapple with the decision of whether to give their child a name tied to their cultural heritage or to choose a name that resonates with both parents’ backgrounds.

The Reddit post that sparked this conversation portrays a situation many couples can relate to. The expectant parents, one-half black and the other fully black find themselves at odds over the choice of a baby name. The mother, who grew up with a name closely associated with black culture, had experienced the challenges of such a name in a society that often forms judgments based on names. On the other hand, the father seeks to give their child a name that reflects his cultural identity and heritage.

Names hold immense power, acting as a gateway to an individual’s cultural background. For many, a name can carry generations of history, traditions, and values. Choosing a name that reflects one’s cultural heritage can be a way of honoring family legacy and preserving identity.

Keep on scrolling down to read the full story in OP’s own words and we will see you at the end of the article.

1. Is OP an A-hole for shutting down black names because she thinks it’ll make life harder for her kids?

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2. OP and her husband are having a baby OP is mixed race half black and half white

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3. OP and her husband do not know the gender of their baby yet

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4. OP grew up with a name that is tied to black culture and OP hated it for most of her life

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5. OP’s husband has a name more commonly used for white boys and he wants a strong black name for their son because he never had that

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6. Exactly they both have perfectly valid points

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7. Not a bad idea!

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8. They should meet in the middle!

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9. OP came back with an update!

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10. OP and her husband have decided on a girl’s name because it honors OP’s husband’s mother but they are stuck on a boy’s name

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11. OP and her husband thought that it was a perfect compromise

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12. He talked about what  Mile Eminem’s character said in 8 Mile

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13. OP had the opposite experience

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14. OP noticed that a lot of her seniors with black names used shortened versions of their names for job applications

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15. OP says that she just wanted to explain why this was such a big deal for both of them

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16. OP thanked everyone who DMed her and also asked people to stop sending her articles

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17. Unfortunately no comments were allowed under this post

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