Mother Of 4 Boys Asks If She’s Wrong For Shutting Down Another Mom By Saying She Didn’t Try For A Daughter
Some people have a terrible tendency to try to assess other people based on their personal preferences and say whatever they think is right without taking into account the fact that everyone has the freedom to think for themselves and that nobody enjoys other people making comments on their lives.
OP described a similar incident in which a woman in the park sympathized with her about not having a daughter. OP has four sons, of whom the first two were biological and the last two were adopted because of a birth complication that made them infertile. OP told the woman that she was a mother of four sons by choice; otherwise, she could adopt a girl; hence, she didn’t need to feel sorry for her. Read the entire post to understand OP’s point of view.
Source: Reddit
1. OP asks if she is wrong to tell someone that she never desired to have a daughter and is happy with her current family.
2. OP has 4 sons, two of them are biological, and the other two are adopted.
3. OP was at a park, chatting with another couple when she mentioned that she has 4 sons. The couple started showing sympathy to OP that she doesn’t have a daughter.
4. OP told them that she never had a gender preference and could have adopted a daughter if she wanted one but she loves her 4 sons and is happy.
5. The lady got upset over OP’s reply and walked away. OP discussed it with her SIL and she said that you should have just ignored the lady and shrugged it off as people love to comment on other people’s lives.
6. OP is concerned.
OP informed the woman that she shouldn’t feel sorry for her because they chose to be parents of sons and didn’t want a daughter because she didn’t like degrading her sons in front of them. The woman got upset at the comments made by the OP and charged him with being impolite without cause. OP’s sister-in-law advised her to ignore the woman because it is common for people to make unmotivated comments about the lives of others.
Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.
7. This Redditor is one lucky daughter to have a father like him who makes her feel wanted and special to exist.
8. OP doesn’t want to make her boys feel less than any gender.
9. Redditor is right, the lady was very rude to say such a thing.
10. Empowering every gender is what will keep the community moving!
11. Such an awestruck story of a daughter-father bond.
12. People love to get involved in family businesses but is a private matter. Having kids or not having kids, when to have them, and how many should solely be a decision of parents.
13. Random strangers asking about the father of your children is out of bounds.
14. People love passing comments on the looks of the siblings and if they share the same bloodline.
15. Redditors had to face difficult times to prove her relationship with her biological sister in school.
16. The cashier assumed and asked for WIC from Redditor’s friend when he saw the mom with five kids.
17. WIC is food stamps for struggling moms with multiple babies.
18. This is intense and so inappropriate.
19. People should mind their own business and make this world a better place to live in.
20. Parents can only decide when to stop having kids, no other person can comment on this.
OP correctly responded to the woman, who was disparaging her sons for listening in on her conversation. OP expressed her views in front of her because she didn’t want her kids to feel less loved, but the woman became irate. People enjoy making comments on other people’s life, but they find it intolerable when others disagree with them. They speak whatever they want without considering the consequences of their remarks. How do you feel about the OP’s response to a typical woman who believes whatever she thinks is right? Comment with your thoughts in the space provided, and follow Wholesomeness for more captivating tales.
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