Reddit user TA-IntrepidArt4204 found himself grappling with a difficult decision regarding his wife’s suggestion to allow one of her employees to live with them. His wife, who ran an auto business, hired skilled workers who faced personal challenges, like those in recovery or with criminal records.
One such employee was Mike, who was a talented salesperson but had a troubled past, including a recent eviction from his sober living arrangement due to his habit of dr*g ab*se. With no place for Mike to live, OP suggested he either book an extended-stay hotel or have the couple pay his rent for an apartment. The wife, on the other hand, suggested they allow him to stay at their house. OP opposed this decision right away, as they barely had any space in the house, and he didn’t want to risk having him and their teenage daughter living in the same house, obviously because of his dr*g ab*se habits.
2. OP’s wife started a new auto business and hired skilled workers, facing personal challenges as it was expensive to hire top-tier workers.
3. One employee, Mike, who is talented, has had major family-related issues and had been unemployed for a very long time until OP hired her.
4. Mike is a good salesman, but he has some personal issues related to dr*g ab*se, which doesn’t allow him to work productively and has caused major disruptions at the office.
5. Despite these issues, OP and her wife chose to keep Mike owing to the potential they saw in him, and the fact that stable employment would allow him to get better.
6. Due to his dr*g problem, no credit discipline, and criminal record, Mike was unable to find a place to live. OP and his wife really wanted to help him out with this.
7. OP suggested Mike could either live in an extended-stay hotel that doesn’t have background checks or the couple could rent an apartment out.
8. The wife suggested they allow Mike to move in with them. OP opposed this mainly because they had a teenage daughter in the house.
9. OP was concerned with the risk associated with Mike’s behavior associated with causing fights and dr*g ab*se.
10. OP told his husband he shouldn’t let his preference for a low-emotion environment get in the way of helping someone. OP, though, was worried about many other risks, like the safety of their daughter.
OP was NTA! I don’t think his wife truly realizes the risk they would expose themselves to by letting Mike move in. They barely have any space, and the fact that they have a teenage daughter living in the house makes Mike’s extended presence very inappropriate. OP is very accurate about all this and NTA for not letting his wife put up the offer to Mike to stay at their house.
The matter was taken to the courts of the AITA community. Let’s see what they have to say about this.
Here’s what the internet had to say about this:
11. OP went above and beyond in assisting this person. He can definitely have boundaries.
For any parent, the health and safety of their children must be at the top. By letting a dr*g addict in their house, does OP realize how big of a risk she is exposing her daughter to? I will be straight up here. Either the teen will start smoking or he will end up haras*ing the teen. In such situations, you have to look at the extremes, and these are just a few of the many extreme situations that could arise due to this decision to let Mike move in.
If it takes, OP must force his wife, but Mike cannot be allowed to live in their house. I really hope you guys enjoyed this one. Don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comments section below.
