OP’s adult son (35) faces eviction and demands to move in, criticizing OP for refusing. He argues a good parent would let their child stay indefinitely. Previously, the son lived with OP, rent-free, while working in the family business. He was fired twice due to alcoholism, absenteeism, and accidents. His children were placed in foster care due to his mental illness and drug abuse. Refusing rehab, he’s jobless, facing eviction, and lacks utilities. Despite OP’s care, including providing necessities and financial aid, the son remains defiant. OP questions if love entails endless help for an unwilling son. Seeking advice, OP plans to attend an AL-ANON meeting and has firmly denied the son’s request for shelter. OP’s son has rejected rehab and mental health treatment, leaving OP torn between the grim possibilities.
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1. Was it okay for OP for not letting his adult son move into his house?
2. OP’s adult son faces eviction and called OP terrible for not letting him move in, claiming any decent parent would provide lifelong housing.
3. OP’s adult son (35) faces eviction. Despite past support and housing, he called OP terrible for not letting him move back in indefinitely.
4. OP’s son, despite support, called OP terrible. He drank excessively, missed work, crashed cars, and was fired twice from the family business, calling OP horrible.
5. OP’s son neglected his two sons for his new girlfriend. They had four kids, ignored advice, and told everyone to mind their own business.
6. OP’s son, diagnosed with mental illness and drug issues, lost custody of his kids to OP’s other son. He refuses rehab and CPS steps for reunification.
7. OP’s son, jobless and evicted, spent money on a tattoo. Despite receiving practical gifts, he got mad at OP for not offering a home.
8. OP still loves their son but questions if love means helping him when he refuses to help himself. OP asks, “AITA?”
9. EDIT: OP thanks everyone for their support and is attending AL-ANON. They told their son no, despite arranging rehab, which he refused.
10. OP’s son quit taking his meds and seeing professionals, believing he doesn’t need help and always finding excuses for why things don’t work out.
11. OP is tormented by the possibility of their son dying, but he refuses help.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article.
12. NTA. Your son needs to take responsibility for his choices.
13. Definitely NTA. You’ve done everything you can to support him.
14. Tough love is sometimes necessary for someone’s own good.
15. You’re NTA here because our son’s actions and choices are his own.
16. Most sane comment so far.
17. Enabling him won’t help him in the long run.
18. Sometimes the hardest choices are the right ones for everyone involved.
19. Your son’s refusal to help himself isn’t your fault.
20. The son needs to face the consequences of his decisions.
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