Grandmother Wants To Start Living For Herself, So She ‘Retires’ From Taking Care Of Her Grandkids, Her Daughter Gets Upset

• By Arsalan Sajid
• 4 months ago
• 5 minutes read

Most of the time, grandchildren have a stronger bond with their grandparents than with their own parents. The children may have formed unique bonds with them at a young age because their parents were always preoccupied with their jobs and left the children in the care of their grandparents.

OP became a mother to two children at a relatively young age. When her daughter was 16, she became pregnant with her first son. OP and her husband accepted full care for the child so that their daughter may study. After finishing her education and getting married, OP’s daughter and husband began their careers, leaving no time for their kid. OP and her husband nurtured their grandson as their third child, but after he turned 18 and traveled across the country for college, they decided to retire and relocate to the South to relax. Read the complete tale to hear about OP’s daughter’s reaction, who was now a mother of two and pregnant again.

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1. OP asks if she was an a-hole to say that she was retiring from taking care of her grandchildren all the time.

2. OP became the mother of her two children at a young age. Her daughter got pregnant at 16, and OP and her husband took responsibility for the child as she was studying at the time.

3. OP’s daughter and her husband started a full-time job after college and left their child with his grandparents to raise him like their third child.

4. When OP’s grandson was going off to college across the country, she and her husband decided to move down to the South after retirement for better weather and relaxation.

5. OP’s daughter had another two-year-old baby and became pregnant again. She quit her work to be a stay-at-home mommy, but she wanted OP to stay with her for support. OP’s decision to resign from childcare duties offended her daughter.

6. OP’s son had no objections to his parents moving because he resided in another state and had no children, but her daughter was not pleased.

OP’s daughter quit her job to look after her child. OP adored her second grandchild but had not taken on the task of raising him. When they decided to move down to the south for better weather and relaxation, their daughter became distressed since she needed her mother’s help in her third pregnancy. OP announced her retirement from childcare duties, which offended her daughter. She claimed that OP did what many other grandmothers do and sounded like she had done some chores while raising her grandchild. OP’s son had no objection to the fact that his parents wanted to move because he lived in a different state with no children.

Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.

7. Redditor thinks that OP can leave her 30-year-old daughter now to take care of her kids alone.

8. Indeed! Childcare is a serious chore that requires time and extra effort to raise a small child into a grown person.

9. Redditor truly understands OP’s narrative and favors her getting retired.

10. Redditor praised OP for being a remarkable mother who stepped up during her daughter’s teen pregnancy.

11. Redditor wants OP to go and live her life.

12. Redditor raises a valid point.

13. Yes, OP’s daughter felt entitled after getting free services from her mother for many years.

14. Redditor knows someone who frequently leaves their children with their grandparents.

15. Because grandparents are not traditional parents, they are not accountable for their grandchildren’s well-being.

16. Yes, OP’s daughter shouldn’t have more kids if she wants someone else to raise them.

17. Redditor believes that her daughter was mad because she would lose free childcare after OP had gone.

18. Indeed! It is tough to take care of a two-year-old who is always ready to mess up things.

19. Redditor supports OP’s decision to stop babysitting her grandchildren, stating that the children are the full responsibility of their parents.

20. Redditor claimed that the OP’s daughter and her spouse were upset over losing their free babysitter.

OP supported her daughter in raising her first child because she needed more time to pursue a career and was a student at the time. She is now a thirty-year-old stay-at-home mother who is capable of raising her children on her own. The timing is ideal for OP and her spouse to consider retiring and leading a quiet life free from all obligations. Given that they nurtured their daughter’s first son as if he were their own, it is incredibly selfish of her to ask for their assistance at this time. After they retire, she ought to encourage them to step out and live life to the fullest. How do you feel about the circumstances of OP? Comment below with your thoughts, and stay in touch with Wholesomeness for more stories.