Man’s Ridiculous Plan To Get Girlfriend To Finance His House’s Down Payment Backfires On Him
In a relationship, both partners must make equal efforts to make it work. If only one person needs to compromise all the time, they will not be able to be together for very long since everyone has a limit to their tolerance for authoritarian behavior.
OP and her boyfriend Mark had been together for two years and hadn’t thought about taking another step in their relationship. Mark’s only dream right now is to buy his own house, which he has been saving for for quite some time. He asked OP if she would pay for all of the rent and utilities for a year, he might be able to save enough money to buy his own house. He informed OP that he would only name the house in his name because they were not yet married. When asked about marriage, Mark responded that he wasn’t ready yet. OP refused to pay his portion for the year because she had not benefited from her boyfriend’s arrangement. Read the complete story to find out how Mark responded to OP’s objection, and then share your thoughts in the comments section below.
Source: Reddit
1. OP did not want to help her boyfriend buy a house.
2. OP and her boyfriend Mark had been together for two years and hadn’t yet talked about taking the next step in their relationship.
3. Mark had been saving money to get his own dream house, which was not yet enough, so he asked OP to help him save more by paying his part of the rent and other expenses for a year.
4. Mark was not yet clear about marrying OP so he wanted to buy the house with his own name only to avoid the risk.
5. Mark told OP that her grandmother’s house would always remain hers and his house would remain only his if they needed to break up someday.
6. Mark had no involvement in her grandmother’s house, but if OP paid his part of the rent and other expenses the whole year, then she should be part of his new home.
7. OP loved him but couldn’t risk spending all of her money to pay both of their expenses, especially when their future was not yet clear. He called her selfish and stopped talking to her after her refusal.
Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.
8. Redditor criticizes OP’s boyfriend for asking her for help without giving her any certainty of their future together.
9. Yes, they should save their own money and buy the house together after deciding to get married.
10. Redditor advises OP to sign a written contract if she has decided to help him buy the house.
11. Yes, no bank will give him a mortgage on a home if he has to pay back an amount out of the house to someone else.
12. Redditor supports OP for refusing his odd demand to pay his rent for a year.
13. Redditor has a valid point.
14. Yes, he was calling OP selfish but he showed his selfishness by demanding unreasonable things from OP.
15. Yes, it doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship.
16. According to Reddit, OP’s boyfriend was manipulative and selfish by asking for her help without giving her any benefit.
17. Redditor believes that OP and her boyfriend’s relationship is not stable enough to contribute to each other’s lives.
18. Yes, if it was too soon for him to get married, then it was too soon for OP to contribute to his project.
19. Redditor thinks that buying a house together is less risky than giving money to someone to buy their own place and then hoping that he will pay it back later.
20. According to Redditor, OP’s boyfriend was planning to save money for the house but not for marriage, so OP didn’t need to help him buy the house.
OP’s boyfriend Mark had plainly stated that he had not considered their marriage yet and that they needed to create a prenuptial agreement in which OP would receive her grandmother’s house and Mark would be the sole owner of his. After such a clear statement, how could she afford to pay his part of the rent and other utilities for a year if she received no benefits? OP did the correct thing by refusing him because he was just concerned with himself and intended to trick her into paying the full fee for the entire year. What is your perspective on the OP’s decision? Share your thoughts with Wholesomeness, and stay tuned for more stories.
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