In today’s story, a woman with type 1 diabetes faced an ongoing issue with a coworker, L, who repeatedly invaded her privacy. The woman, who works in a group home, must regularly monitor her bl**d glucose levels using a sensor on her arm.
Despite setting clear boundaries, L continued to ask invasive questions and expressed unwelcome concern whenever she checked her glucose levels. When the woman firmly restated her boundaries, OP accused her of being rude and suggested she check her glucose levels when L wasn’t around.
2. OP has type 1 diabetes, which requires her to closely monitor her bl**d sugar level.
3. OP uses many ways to check her sugar level, one of which is to use her phone to scan the sensor she has stuck to her arm.
4. OP has a coworker, L, who is quite invasive about her diabetes.
5. OP had laid clear boundaries before L that she quit questioning her disease and the way she monitors it, but she didn’t honor any of them.
6. One day, OP had to scan her arm sensor manually using her phone, and L happened to be there.
7. L asked OP if she was okay, which annoyed OP as she confronted her to stop worrying about her, and that she would let L know if her sugar levels were ever high or low.
8. L said she only enquired about her health because she cared for OP.
9. The next day, the two interacted once again, and OP told L that her health and the way she monitored it were none of her business.
10. L laughed at OP with a hint of sarcasm, calling her rude for the response she gave.
11. L told OP that if she doesn’t want her to enquire about her health, OP must check her bl**d glucose levels when L is not around.
Being careful is a nice thing; there is no denying that, and no one is against the fact that L is a caring person. But when a person has explicitly told you that your caring makes them feel uncomfortable, then you must stop doing it. If you are still doing it, then you are an AH. That is exactly what happened between OP and L. L inquiring about OP made her feel uncomfortable, and OP telling her to stop doing it was enough reason for L to stop. OP was not rude in any way.
OP must document all this just in case L approaches HR. She must be prepared. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this. Scroll down below to continue reading!
Here’s what the internet had to say about this:
12. No one in this world wouldn’t get annoyed if their boundaries were completely ignored.
The decision is in. The AITA community has declared OP NTA, as she simply set boundaries and reacted only when those boundaries got broken. Anyone would have reacted that way. L was making her feel uncomfortable and she must accept that. If they want their co-worker relationship to continue, L must learn to accept, and OP must also accept that L won’t make her feel uncomfortable. I’m hoping that things settle down.
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