Mother Asks If She’s Wrong For Getting Her Daughter’s Dog ‘Fixed’
Parents frequently weigh the decision of allowing their children to have dogs, understanding the significant responsibility that comes with pet ownership. Dogs require consistent care, attention, and financial investment, which parents consider when evaluating their child’s readiness for such a commitment. Beyond the daily care, there are lessons in empathy, responsibility, and patience that children can learn from caring for a pet. However, concerns about whether a child is capable of handling these responsibilities often prompt parents to delay or carefully consider introducing a dog into the family dynamic. This decision reflects a desire to ensure both the well-being of the pet and the development of responsible habits in their children.
In today’s story, a Redditor shared her journey on the AITA subreddit, recounting how she initially denied her daughter a dog due to concerns about responsibility. When her daughter turned 19 and showed maturity with a part-time job, OP surprised her with a puppy. However, issues arose when the dog matured and began experiencing messy heat cycles. Despite repeated requests for her daughter to get the dog spayed, she refused, citing distrust in local vets. Frustrated after years of dealing with the issue, OP took the dog to be spayed without her daughter’s knowledge while she was at work.
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1. Is OP the a**hole for having their daughter’s dog spayed? They seek judgment on whether their decision was justified.
2. OP and her 23-year-old daughter have always lived together. The daughter works full-time while she works remotely.
3. When the daughter was a child, OP never got her a dog, believing children don’t grasp the responsibility of pet ownership. However, when the daughter turned 19, had a part-time job, OP surprised her with a female mutt puppy for her birthday.
4. OP was pleased to see her daughter’s joy with the long-awaited dog, but there was an issue. When the puppy matured and started going into heat, OP assumed her daughter would get her fixed since there was no intention to breed her.
5. When OP suggested getting the dog fixed, her daughter immediately refused, citing concerns about the dog’s pain and distrust of local veterinarians. OP acknowledged her daughter’s perspective.
6. Four years later, the dog still bl**ds everywhere during each heat cycle, which lasts 2-3 weeks. Her daughter doesn’t clean up or use special dog diapers, making the situation increasingly annoying and disgusting for OP.
7. The dog’s bl**d ends up on the floor, carpet, couch, and even on OP’s bed and pillows. Despite expressing her frustration and irritation, the daughter refuses to clean up, use dog diapers, or get the dog fixed.
8. While her daughter was at work, OP took the dog to the vet to get her fixed due to ongoing frustration with the situation. Upon discovering the incision, her daughter became furious and not speaking to her for months.
9. The daughter took excellent care of her dog but refused to get her fixed. Since the mother was listed as a co-owner at the vet, she took the dog for checkups and vaccines.
10. This incident occurred four months ago, and her daughter still refuses to talk to OP. She’s told the family what happened, and now they all see OP as the bad person.
Now that you have read the story, it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say about this. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this.
11. Your daughter’s neglect as a dog owner caused more suffering for the dog than the surgery would have.
12. It’s a proven fact that fixing dogs and cats leads to longer, healthier lives for them.
13. OP’s daughter’s negligence as a pet owner is concerning. Hopefully, she won’t take on more pets in the future.
14. Individuals as irresponsible and clueless as OP’s daughter shouldn’t be entrusted with pets, as she clearly doesn’t prioritize the dog’s well-being.
15. It’s essential to spay female dogs unless they’re meant for breeding. Heat cycles can lead to aggression from male dogs towards humans and the female dog, making it a significant issue.
16. Seems like even at 23, your daughter hasn’t grasped the full responsibility of owning a pet. NTA for stepping in.
17. Your daughter may not appreciate it, but if the dog could speak, she’d surely thank you!
18. Seems like the daughter should prioritize getting the dog checked regularly.
19. Helping the dog was the right move….your daughter’s ignorance and stubbornness were unfortunate.
20. Considering the risk of unplanned litters, she’s fortunate things turned out as they did.
From OP’s daughter’s viewpoint, secretly getting the dog fixed may have been the wrong approach. Yet, the reality remains that her daughter hasn’t shown responsibility toward her own dog. Moving out may teach her the true demands of pet care through firsthand experience, a challenging but necessary lesson in understanding the responsibilities of ownership. Meanwhile, the OP must wait for her daughter to recognize and learn from her actions. Do share your thoughts on the story in the comments section below.
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