OP, 37F, and her husband, both working full-time corporate jobs, have two children. They decided to move in with their mother, who has been living in an in-law suite. OP and her husband help with her bills and she takes care of the kids from 2:30 pm to 6 pm. However, OP’s brother and sister (SIL) believe it is unfair that their mother is the only one caring for their children. SIL recently dropped off her children at the author’s house, causing OP to feel uncomfortable with this arrangement. OP has told SIL that she can’t afford a nanny and that she is choosing to use her mother’s house for childcare when they can’t afford other options. OP has blocked SIL, stating that it’s her job to look after her kids, not hers.
So keep on scrolling down below to read the whole story narrated by OP and make sure to read it till the end; otherwise, you won’t be able to let us know whether OP is an A-hole or not.
1. OP isn’t wrong for wanting her mom to only babysit her kids, not her brother’s. Safety concerns and fairness are valid reasons.
2. OP (37F), married with two kids (11 and 8), works full-time with her husband. After OP’s father’s passing, they invited her mother (60F) to live with them.
3. OP renovated their home for mom to live in full-time, replacing their nanny. Brother and SIL think it’s unfair if mom only babysits OP’s kids.
4. SIL dropped off her kids at OP’s house without permission. OP and husband don’t want brother’s kids there due to safety concerns and mom only watches OP’s kids for a few hours.
5. OP asked mom if she’s comfortable watching 4 kids. Decided not to let brother’s kids come over. SIL upset, sending rude messages.
6. OP blocked SIL after accusing her of using their mother for childcare. Reminded SIL it’s her job as a SAHM to care for her kids.
7. OP clarified that she’s fine if her mom watches her brother’s kids at their house. However, she dislikes SIL dropping off her kids at OP’s house without consent or notice.
8. OP’s arrangement with her mother for childcare isn’t favoritism. Brother’s kids require supervision beyond OP’s mother’s capacity.
9. SIL’s expectation of childcare without consent is unreasonable. OP isn’t obligated to provide free childcare for SIL’s children.
10. It’s unfair for SIL to assume OP’s mother will care for her kids without prior agreement.
11. OP’s decision to decline babysitting for her brother’s kids is justified. SIL’s behavior is disrespectful and entitled.
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