Bride Calls Her Sister Selfish For Wanting To Skip Her Wedding Because Of A Past Trauma, Creates Family Drama

• By Arsalan Sajid
• 5 months ago
• 5 minutes read

People with mental illnesses have faced criticism for using their sickness as an an excuse to achieve all they want. They only want to be allowed to live their lives as they feel right in order to aid in their rehabilitation, yet few people understand their feelings.

OP was telling a story about her twin sister, who refused to attend OP’s wedding because it would bring back the trauma from six years earlier, when she lost her husband after 10 days of marriage. OP and her fiancé were planning their wedding and agreeing on a guest list when her sister informed them that she would be unable to attend due to an illness. OP’s sister’s spouse had terminal cancer, and they married to be together in his final days. According to OP, the incident occurred six years ago, and her sister should go on and enjoy her wedding with the entire family. Read the complete tale to find out what happens next.

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1. OP asks if she is an a-hole to think that her sister is selfish to not attend her wedding due to her so-called trauma.

2. OP made her wedding list, however, her sister rejected her invitation.

3. OP’s sister was married to a cancer patient and her husband died 10 days after her marriage, which is why she doesn’t attend any other weddings, including OP’s.

4. OP thinks that her sister is just making excuses to not attend her wedding because of their rocky relationship.

5. OP’s sister is now playing the depression card to avoid family gatherings and OP’s marriage and now everyone is supporting OP’s sister, even her fiance.

OP and her sister had a strained relationship, and OP assumed that was the sole reason; her sister was using her trauma as an excuse to avoid attending her wedding. OP asked for the help of her family to get her sister to come, but she received criticism from her sister’s friend for pressing her through family because it drove her into sadness and caused her to miss work. OP believed her sister was using her depression card to get away from her unfair treatment towards OP. Her fiancé told OP to leave her sister alone because it was not worth forcing someone to attend their wedding.

Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.

6. Redditor asks OP that if she doesn’t like her sister, why is so concerned about her attending her wedding?

7. Redditor suggests OP listen to her fiance and leave her sister alone.

8. Redditor says that even if OP’s sister shows up, OP will take her trauma for granted.

9. Redditor thinks OP only wanted a gift which is why she is insisting her sister to come to her wedding.

10. Redditor advised OP not to pressurize her sister to come to the place where she felt uncomfortable.

11. Redditor opposes family manipulation to force people to do anything they want, calling it bullying.

12. Redditor has learned how to say no, and it has changed her life.

13. Redditors never succumb to manipulation and attend family gatherings on their own choice.

14. Indeed! Trauma can be managed, but it is never completely cured.

15. According to Redditor, OP should not compel her sister to come, even if her trauma is only an an excuse.

16. Undoubtedly! Trauma never has an expiration date.

17. Redditor chastised OP for trivializing other people’s sorrow and grief.

18. Yes, OP’s sister was in fact helping her in not spoiling her wedding by attending.

19. Yes, OP hadn’t shown any empathy for her sister, who lost her loved one six years ago.

20. Yes, whether her sister declined to go or exacerbated her trauma during the ceremony, OP’s sister would be criticized.

OP should not compel her sister to attend her wedding if she does not want to. OP’s sister’s decision to not attend the wedding was due to her trauma, and she understands that if her mental health deteriorates at the wedding, all attention would be focused on her, and the bride will be upset for ruining her wedding. It was unclear why OP wanted her sister to attend her wedding when the two sisters were not on good terms. OP should not doubt her mental health because trauma has no expiration date and can be triggered again. What do you think about it? Share your ideas in the comments section below, and stay tuned to Wholesomeness for more tales.