Redditor Takes ‘No Need for Presents’ Statement Literally, Goes To Baby Shower Without A Gift, Mom To Be Gets Upset

• By Arsalan Sajid
• 11 months ago
• 5 minutes read

It is customary for the invited guest at any social event organized by family and friends to bring a good gift for the host. Nowadays, a registry is linked to the invitation card so that guests can easily select items from the list that the host need. The scenario becomes problematic when the host expresses their unwillingness to accept the present yet expects the guest to bring it with them.

OP described a similar scenario in which her best friend asked her to attend her baby shower via email but did not include a gift list. OP inquired about it, but her friend casually stated that she did not want any gifts and that her presence to support them was the true present for her. OP took her phrasing literally and did not bring any gifts to the occasion. Now OP was the only one without a gift, and he felt ashamed. OP’s friend opened all of the gifts in front of the guests, which included various baby items, and looked at OP with a confused expression. OP received a message from her friend after the event inquiring about it and criticizing her for not doing the bare minimum for her best friend’s child. OP was perplexed by her friend’s reaction, and she penned her story to learn her fault because her friend completely blamed her for the misunderstanding. Read the entire story to grasp the OP’s point of view, then leave your comments in the space below.

Source: Reddit

1. OP asks if she was an a-hole for attending a baby shower without a gift.

2. OP was invited through an email to her best friend’s baby shower without any registry that could show the required gift list.

3. OP asked her friend about the registry, but she clearly told OP that she just wanted her to come and support her without bringing a gift.

4. OP was the only one who didn’t bring any gifts to the baby shower, but he had given her a nice card before the event to show how happy she was for her friend.

5. OP’s friend opened all of the gifts, including baby items, in front of guests, but there was no gift from OP.

6. OP’s friend texted her to ask why she didn’t bring anything, and she pointed out her previous message about not wanting a gift.

7. OP would definitely bring a gift if her friend put a registry along with the invitation card or didn’t force OP to not bring it.

8. To illustrate her argument, OP uploaded the actual messages her friend sent her.

Now that you’ve heard the story, let’s dive into what Redditors had to say. Keep reading to discover other people’s perspectives on the matter.

9. Redditor criticized OP’s friend for expecting a gift from her after stopping her clearly to bring any.

10. Redditor dislikes people who say the opposite of what they actually want, which creates confusion.

11. Yes, OP should buy an unneeded gift for the person who was not interested in receiving a gift before the event but expected it thereafter.

12. According to Redditor, there is no such thing as a gift-free baby shower, no matter how much they have told you not to bring one.

13. Redditor wonders why OP didn’t know her best friend’s traits—that she asks one thing and expects another.

14. Redditor appreciates people who clearly tell their friends what they want for their baby, as it makes others lives easier.

15. Redditor has a valid opinion.

16. Redditor shares another story about when someone requested not to bring any gifts and had to donate the forced gifts afterwards.

17. Redditor advises OP to compensate her best friend with a nice gift when the baby arrives.

18. Indeed! OP can save the friendship by gifting something nice upon meeting the baby.

19. Redditor was a bit confused about OP’s minimum involvement in her best friend’s precious event.

20. Yes, showing devotion and care to loved ones is far more expensive than any material gift.

Since her friend had declined to provide a registry with the invitation card and had specifically asked her not to bring a present, OP was justified in attending the baby shower without bringing any gifts. When someone asks for one thing but expects another, it can be quite irritating and is not understandable to straightforward people. By sending her a thoughtful gift after the baby is born, OP can win back her friendship and put an end to their disagreement. How do you feel about the circumstances of the OP? Comment with your thoughts in the space provided, and follow Wholesomeness to read more tales.