New Mom Asks Her Retired Mother To Help Out With The Baby, But Now She Doesn’t Want To Do It For Free

By Adina Tayyab
November 16, 2022
4 minutes read

Parents suffer tension when a baby is born, especially if they are inexperienced. Then outside assistance is helpful and frequently required. And what could be better than asking a close family member for assistance? It is considerably better than the uncomfortableness you experience when guests stop by your place. Many people also receive this assistance from their parents. After a child is born, it’s common for grandparents to visit and spend time with the grandchildren. They can assist with the infant and give new parents advice, which is wonderful. Except when it isn’t, it is great.

A parent of a kid who was 9 months old recently posted an odd message on the Mumsnet website in London, asking for help with her problem. But the query wasn’t one you typically see on this kind of site. Advice on feeding or changing diapers wasn’t required. No, this time, it involved an adult. OP’s mother came to assist her because she has a kid. She shares a home with her mother, her husband, and themselves. Doesn’t that sound great? But in a storyline twist, the grandmother suddenly says to her daughter that she wants to be rewarded for her assistance after all these months. She was actually irate that she hadn’t been compensated for it sooner. OP is perplexed. You must be, right?

1. Is it a job for grandparents to spend time with their grandchildren, or do they enjoy it? OP described her issue.:

OP explained her problem: — Candyfloss11

2. Her mom was really helpful

But now wants to be paid for her help — Candyfloss11

4. She never expressed the expectation that she would be compensated for her time.

She never mentioned that she was expecting to be paid for her time — Candyfloss11

5. Due to her retirement and paid-in-full expenses, there is no income loss.

She has all expenses paid, and she is retired, so there is no income loss — Candyfloss11

6. OP is clearly upset at this thing

For OP, it just doesn't feel right... — Candyfloss11

7. And thinks about sending her baby to the nursery

Now that you have read the story. it’s time for you to see what Redditors had to say on this. It is obvious that the mother was being inappropriate and demanding money for no reason. Read till the end to see what are other people’s opinions on this. Don’t forget to share your own opinion at the end of this article too.

8. The grandmother’s actions astonished some Redditors.

Redditors were a bit surprised by this grandmother's actions — Candyfloss11

9. And they ask if grandmother pays for anything around the house?

10. Some people think that the entire arrangement seems a little unhealthy.

Some people believe that the whole setup seems a bit unhealthy — Candyfloss11

11. This is accurate. That the OP’s mother would suddenly consider this seems strange. Perhaps something occurred…

This is spot on. It seems weird that OP's mom would suddenly think of this. Maybe something happened... — Candyfloss11

12. Or maybe OP’s mom has cash problems?

13. Will the grandmother end the arrangement if she wants to?

Does the grandmother want to end the arrangement? — Candyfloss11

14. Some Redditors were pretty straightforward on this matter as follows

15. Do you agree with this?

Who is present right now, then? We fully comprehend the OP. Her mother never made any hints that she wanted to be paid for watching the kids. But how much childcare does she truly provide? When she returns to work, the OP mentioned bringing the child to the daycare center. Thus, we can presume that OP spends most of her time at home and that her mother occasionally looks after the infant. Okay, we must acknowledge that caring for infants (even if only on occasion) is difficult and involves a lot of work. But is it acceptable to demand payment for that work? for a grandson? Of course, we are not referring to situations in which a person is employed but is unable to work due to caring for their grandchildren.

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